Finding Your Coach

Each of us is on the journey of our life.  For some, it seems so easy. For others, each lesson is hard learned.  What if it didn’t need to be that hard?

When we are brave enough to “dive deep within” we can find our answers, and gain a deeper understanding of our world around us.  With that key to knowledge, everything awaits us.

Finding Your Coach Diving Deep Within invites you to embrace the power of questions, and to gain a deeper more meaningful understanding of yourself and how you move through your world.

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Introduction

“I have come for advice.” “That is easily got.” “And help.” “That is not always so easy.” —ARTHUR CONAN DOYLE THE FIVE ORANGE PIPS

Welcome

What do you do when you hit the crossroads? There is a reason that the word “crossroads” has endured all these years to signify transition because it feels so true no matter where your life is. When we are young, it is college or career. As we mature, it is career or family. As we get even further along, the questions become more complicated because, to my way of thinking, there isn’t ever a right answer, just the one you think will make you happy … you hope will make you happy. I found myself at those very crossroads, wondering where to go next. The desire to escape to a faraway clime was very tempting. I could tuck it all in, relocate, turn things over to a property manager and get a remote secretary for the physical things that had to be done business-wise stateside. It was all very tempting, except for learning another language and being alone, and while I am very brave about many things, I realized for this adventure, I really would prefer to have a partner in crime. Around the same time, a family crisis ensued, and as much as I would have liked to walk away, I couldn’t. It wouldn’t have been true to me, and as difficult as the entire experience has been, it has taught me much about myself that I didn’t know, didn’t want to know, and was apprehensive to learn. I often wish I could have read a book or CliffsNotes version, but there doesn’t appear to be any such creature, and so I took the real course in life. Even if there was such a resource, I don’t know if I would have believed it, for without our naive belief and hope, how would we or could we ever tackle the impossible? If you are going to have a crisis, it seems to be de rigueur that all aspects of your life implode at once, and so it was with me. Our lovely little family business that had at one time been innovative and unique, with time and technology was no longer that way. The next question was where to with that? Do I reinvent it? How would I reinvent it? What were the possibilities to reposition it? Did I want to reinvent it? Just because you have done something your entire life and are relatively good at it, does that mean you should continue? And in reinventing, are you doing it for you, for the money, or for the parent you have lost, and this was one of your strongest ties to them? It seemed that all of my life had become about questions, about new directions, about finding out what I wanted, and I was ill prepared for that. Like many women of a certain time, I had been raised to think of family first, then others, to be aware of my actions, to bring honor to my family, organization, affiliation, and somewhere in there, be happy too. This is not to say I have been unhappy. In many ways, I have had a very blessed, safe, fulfilled life. I have had a fair amount of accomplishments, and a wealth of people I care about and who care about me. It would be fair to say a lovely amount of travel, culture, and all the bells and whistles you hope to find along the road of life, have equally added to the mix. Still, the questions remained, and I was stuck. Stuck in the way no one should be. More than “should I stay or should I go?” More like “what is the meaning of life?” What do I want to do? What would I like to do? What would I like to do that gives life meaning? What would I like to do that gives life meaning and might give me some financial reward, a.k.a., a different career, job, work? How do you do this when you realize that dreaming was never something encouraged in your childhood, young adulthood, and even in your recent years? Problem solve. I can problem solve. I like to think I am a rather good problem solver. I realized, however, I was not raised to dream. For my father, dreams had led to great disappointments, and whether it was to spare us the pain he had known or to keep his loved ones near to him, dreams and hopes were not ever encouraged. And so we come back to the questions. All the questions that continued to plague me, persist within me, return to me. I found myself looking for answers, but not yet as someone on a quest. I pursued them as someone out to solve a problem. To solve that pesky riddle that had been poking at me for days. I went to my head, instead of my heart. In finding my comfort zone in my head, I learned many valuable lessons. First was realizing how I processed, and for me, I needed the intellectual basis, the satisfaction that this was real, tangible, logical, and practical. I needed to figure out how I had become so disconnected from myself. How was it that I had so many paths and yet felt immobilized to start on any one of them? How did I lose my advocate? My person, who no matter what, was there? And that started me down a path of inquiry. How was I, relatively well educated, relatively normal, and socially adept, completely lost when it came to me? How was it, like everyone else, I could see everything in your life that needed to be done, and the success that could be yours, but could not see it, feel it, believe it on my own?

So like the well-trained, fairly-good-at-it researching fiend I am, I started down a path to figure how I got so disconnected from being able to take care of my dreams, my hopes. How was it that I lost my way before I had it? And so I went to feed my mind, hoping quelling the questions there would allow my heart to quicken when the answers presented themselves to me. Welcome to my journey, my adventure. Permit me to share the lessons I learned along the road.

Melinda J. Kelly

 

Overview & Preview

28 Sections

144 Pages

How many times have you left a room, a meeting, a conference, a webinar and wondered what everyone thought was so great?  Sometimes it’s a legit point, but sometimes it is because we simply missed the boat. Only we didn’t realize we were still on the dock!

Each of us has traits and tendencies we may not even realize that are sabotaging our best plans.  Only we may not realize we even have them because they have been with us for so long. Worse, they may no longer serve the role they may once have, which often is to protect us when we don’t yet have our voice or understanding.

Through a series of positions, questions are raised.  Some may fit. Some may not. But in going through each one we are able to explore our own journey.

Our Book Lovers 

Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within is a nonfiction motivational self-help book written by Melinda J. Kelly. Kelly reached that place in her life that so many others experience at some point. Her family’s business was no longer the cutting edge and special thing that it had been, and it was now time for her to consider doing other things with her life. Figuring out exactly what would be a fulfilling and appropriate use of her skills, talents and experiences was the first step in embracing her voyage of self-discovery. She had to consider who she was and what she actually wanted — apart from the traditional deference women of her generation were trained to give to family and familial relationships. This time, the focus was on herself. She was an experienced researcher and had literally grown up with a computer at her disposal. Thus armed, she set out to discover who she wanted to be.

Finding Your Coach describes the voyage to self-realization that Kelly experienced, and she shows how readers can set out on such journeys for themselves. Her first step is determining whether one is an introvert or extrovert, and many may discover that they’ve got a little of each in their psychological makeup.

She then poses a number of questions to her readers about their relationships with others, particularly parental figures, and whether being considered nice is really that important after all. Along the road to self-discovery, Kelly discusses the role of coaches, mentors, even facilitators at seminars and authors, and she shows how each type of coaching can help the reader determine who they are and how they want to proceed with their life journey.

Melinda J. Kelly’s book gives readers a wealth of insights and ways to learn more about themselves, decide what they want and figure out how to effect the necessary changes to make it happen. Her book is well written and organized, and her writing style is smooth and conversational. Kelly, in effect, shares with her readers how she became her own coach, and she offers her insights so readers can initially help themselves, and then expand and use other sources of help. Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within is highly recommended.

In Finding Your Coach, Diving Deep Within Melinda shares her discoveries and reflections on how she arrived at first seeking others, rather than looking within. In her search for answers, Melinda also realized that too often she was racing to a destination she thought she wanted, rather than going to a destination she did. In asking about her own sense of success, it raised questions about the very nature of success. More importantly, was it success or happiness she was ultimately looking for.

Sneak Peek 

Reviews for Finding Your Coach

Reviewed By Faridah Nassozi for Readers’ Favorite

If ever you’re at a point where you need to make a decision that will probably change the course of your life and you do not know what to do or what decision to make, know that we have all been there. What path do you choose when the future is so uncertain? In her book Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within, Melinda J. Kelly offers some guidance on how to navigate this critical moment by awakening the coach inside you. It all starts with discovering who you truly are because only then will you be clear about what you want. The choices you make are also affected by the people in your life. Take the lessons from them but do not lose sight of your own goals and dreams. Finally, decide what success really means to you and go for it. This book will guide you on your journey.

Reviewed By Faridah Nassozi for Readers’ Favorite(cont.)

Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within by Melinda J. Kelly is a recommended read if you are currently at a crossroads, whether in your personal or professional space. It is also a good read to prepare you for such moments because we all face them at one time or another in life. Melinda J. Kelly offers a guiding hand through her own journey, the people she has met along the way and the lessons learned. The book is divided into three parts that directly feed into each other to create a complete and comprehensive path to discovering who you are and what you really want out of life. Once you have those answers, making decisions becomes easier, even in conflicted situations. 

Reviewed By Edith Wairimu for Readers’ Favorite

Designed to help the reader find the right life coach, depending on the circumstances surrounding their life, Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within by Melinda J. Kelly is enlightening and relevant in the modern world. Kelly first explains the importance of knowing who you are. She discusses how someone’s personality and what they look for when relating with others can be an indicator of the type of coach that could work for them. In Part II of the book, she explains the value of understanding your coach and weighing whether they could be the right mentor for you. In the third section, Kelly defines different types of success from financial, personal, emotional and collective success.

Reviewed By Edith Wairimu for Readers’ Favorite (cont.)

Melinda J. Kelly’s Finding Your Coach goes beyond the client-coach relationship to external issues that also play a role in the relationship’s success. She points out a factor that many people tend to overlook when picking a coach, which is that different people relate best with different coaches. What could work for one person may not necessarily work for another. After the whole coaching endeavor is done, some remain stranded on where to begin and how to apply the new knowledge they have acquired. In Finding Your Coach, Kelly explains what follows. She defines success, explaining it from different points of view, and shows how the answer to what success really is could differ from what society commonly refers to as prosperity. The book instils confidence, urging the reader to celebrate small successes and to understand success by the way they impact other people. Definitely accessible, Finding Your Coach is a powerful and informative tool. 

Reviewed By Asher Syed for Readers’ Favorite

Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within by Melinda J. Kelly is a non-fiction self-help book for individuals who find themselves in something of a deadlock when determining which direction their life should be taking. Kelly explains that, like herself, many will hold on to what they have committed themselves to for years simply out of habit, because so much time has already been invested, and/or because they feel like letting go would be too risky or emotionally devastating. What Kelly hopes to achieve in this insightful guide is to give readers the tools necessary to dive deep and find their way, choosing a path that leads to fulfilment and success in all of its many forms. 

Reviewed By Asher Syed for Readers’ Favorite (cont.)

Melinda J. Kelly has compiled a well constructed and extremely personal reference based on decades of work and experience in Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within. I found the inclusion of her own stories made everything she presented that much more relatable, with my favorite part being three, where she discusses what success means to different people. The standout line and my own “Aha!” moment didn’t arrive until the end when she says, “ An old phrase that has taken me a long time to understand and one that I quoted earlier—’Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get’—was one of my guiding stars.” Kelly has a great deal to offer and I’d recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves at a crossroads in their life…and frankly, at one point or another, that is all of us.

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Melinda J. Kelly, a Los Angeles native, has been a lifelong lover of words.

Introduced to leadership volunteering at age twelve, she found the interplay of hopes, personalities, and outcomes to be a kaleidoscope of possibilities.

She often found the questions more interesting than the answers, leading her to a variety of thoughts. Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within is her first collection of those meditations. She is available for seminars, retreats and speaking engagements based upon her work.

A Word from the Author

What do you do when you have nothing but questions and the answers aren’t coming? Who do you go to after you’ve tried friends and family? What do you do when you keep looking for help and still aren’t finding the answers to your questions?

For many people, the answer is a coach, someone who has taken the time to look and master what you are trying to define. 

For Melinda J. Kelly, the answer was to go within, to dive deep, to dare to ask was it them or her?

For most of us, of course, it is them. But since the only constant was Melinda, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe it was her.

With that starting place of embracing the questions, the next conference was her own personal lab. The traits and tendencies she realized were part of her issues taking knowledge and information were clearly shared by others. The realization she could easily become a self-help conference junkie gave her a clarity she realized she needed. Time was passing, and so were her hopes and dreams.

Reviews for Finding Your Coach

Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within is a nonfiction motivational self-help book written by Melinda J. Kelly. Kelly reached that place in her life that so many others experience at some point. Her family’s business was no longer the cutting edge and special thing that it had been, and it was now time for her to consider doing other things with her life. Figuring out exactly what would be a fulfilling and appropriate use of her skills, talents and experiences was the first step in embracing her voyage of self-discovery. She had to consider who she was and what she actually wanted — apart from the traditional deference women of her generation were trained to give to family and familial relationships. This time, the focus was on herself. She was an experienced researcher and had literally grown up with a computer at her disposal. Thus armed, she set out to discover who she wanted to be.

Finding Your Coach describes the voyage to self-realization that Kelly experienced, and she shows how readers can set out on such journeys for themselves. Her first step is determining whether one is an introvert or extrovert, and many may discover that they’ve got a little of each in their psychological makeup. She then poses a number of questions to her readers about their relationships with others, particularly parental figures, and whether being considered nice is really that important after all. Along the road to self-discovery, Kelly discusses the role of coaches, mentors, even facilitators at seminars and authors, and she shows how each type of coaching can help the reader determine who they are and how they want to proceed with their life journey.

Melinda J. Kelly’s book gives readers a wealth of insights and ways to learn more about themselves, decide what they want and figure out how to effect the necessary changes to make it happen. Her book is well written and organized, and her writing style is smooth and conversational. Kelly, in effect, shares with her readers how she became her own coach, and she offers her insights so readers can initially help themselves, and then expand and use other sources of help. Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within is highly recommended. 

Reviewed By Jack Magnus for Circle of Books

You have hit a crossroads in life and do not know what to do. There are so many questions in your mind and you are trying to figure out what you want from life. Finding Your Coach: Diving Deep Within by Melinda J. Kelly is a useful guide for all readers who have arrived at a crossroads and are looking to make that transition in their lives which will help them dive deep within, rediscover themselves and find out parts of themselves which they never thought existed. This is where working with other people like coaches gives answers. Reading this book will help readers to analyze their lives and look at it from a different angle, and then see where positive changes can be made so the progress and transition are smooth and easy.

I like the way the author has handled a relevant topic and she gives hope, courage, confidence, and guidance to readers. The personal experiences shared in Finding Your Coach make it easy to connect with what she is trying to convey. There are many personal questions asked that will help readers delve deep into themselves and discover areas which have been concealed till now, even to them. She has handled the topic methodically, making it easy for readers to comprehend the concepts and apply these in their lives.

This book is an eye-opener to the concept of coaching. Life coach. Style coach. Business coach. Coach. You name them, they are all there. Finding Your Coach is good for therapists and counselors as the strategies and questions can be used for interactive sessions with their clients while navigating through their personal problems. The author’s seven suggestions are good for readers to learn more about themselves, thereby leading them onto their path to success. As Aristotle rightly said: ‘Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.’ 

Reviewed By Mamta Madhavan for Readers’ Favorite

Anthologies

Contributing Author to the following books

The Professional Woman – The Gift of Self-Esteem

This collection of tales, facts and remembrances discuss the nature of self-esteem, the roots of self-esteem, and understanding how to embrace and own each of our birthrights as people and women.  With science, emotion, logic and fancy, we look at how self-esteem develops and grows, is fostered and encouraged, and how we step into those Manolo Blahniks of aspiration, power, and being in our daily lives.

If interested in a copy of this book click the link below to reserve. This will be posted to you.

The Total Woman – Dance to the Beat of Your Own Heart

Melinda J. Kelly is one of the 35 international authors contributing to THE TOTAL WOMAN originating from India, the Philippines, Jamaica, Argentina, Canada, and the United States.  The contributors include 8 PhD authors, 16 Master’s Degrees, and the majority are highly qualified professional speakers, consultants, attorneys, psychologists, nurses, and CEO’s.

This publication on passion and purpose is headed to the United Nations Women’s Executive Board.

Covering topics as diverse as women are, a full picture of today’s woman is painted.  Leaders in Pearls who March to the Beat of their own Heart are Standing in Courage. Because Life is an Attitude, they fight Bullying, help others Overcome Self-Sabotage & Self-Doubt while embracing The Power of Optimism and the Outer Beauty, Inner Confidence.  In business, they know the Tools for the Female Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship for International Women, are Building a Civilized and Bully Free Corporate Culture, know Branding, Image and Etiquette. They are a Master of Disguise, understand Change and Transition, are Living with Purpose and Vision while Empowering Women and Keeping it REAL!

The above are some of the titles from The Total Woman, A Holistic Approach to Life Balance – Wellness. Relationships. Self-Confidence. Business.

What we love

WHAT WE LOVE is the fourth edition in The Community Book Project series, where people come together to write and submit essays on a particular theme under the guidance of USA Today best-selling and award-winning author Donna Kozik.

WHAT WE LOVE describes relationships with children, spouses, pets, nature, travel and more.

We are pleased to share the results with you in this book celebrating love: the inspirational essays, narratives and insights. The intention of this book is to empower and uplift you, too, to notice what’s around you that’s ready for love from you.

Various contributing Authors

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